In Celebration of the Sacred Heart: The Call to Awaken Lumorik

 

Today, we celebrate the Solemnity of the Sacred Heart of Jesus, a feast that invites us to reflect deeply on the boundless love and divine passion of Christ for humanity. This Sacred Heart is not a passive affection but a blazing furnace of divine love, a fire that devours all that is worldly, transforming the soul into one of pure devotion and self-giving.

In our modern age, however, the word "passion" has become diluted. It is often associated with fleeting emotions, desires, or the lower movements of the soul—those impulses that draw us toward immediate gratification, distraction, or self-interest. Passions, in this sense, are often seen as forces of instability, leading the soul away from virtue and toward excess or indulgence. The lower passions—the appetites for comfort, pleasure, and self-centered pursuits—can leave us restless and unfulfilled, always searching for something that satisfies, yet never truly filling the soul.

To express the type of divine, higher passion that we see in the Sacred Heart of Jesus, I have coined the word "Lumorik." This term blends the ideas of light (from the Latin lumen) and amore (love in Italian and other languages) to reflect a transcendent, divine passion. Lumorik is a radiant, higher passion that moves the will to seek the good and the intellect to pursue truth. It is a passionate fervor that awakens the soul, drawing it toward truth, goodness, and divine beauty. This kind of passion is the fervor of Christ's love, which St. Paul describes as “the love of Christ, which surpasses knowledge” (Ephesians 3:19).

Unlike the fleeting passions that often govern our daily lives, Lumorik is sustained and transcendent. It is a divine fire that ignites both the heart and the mind. Without Lumorik, both the will and intellect can grow tired or bored, leaving us spiritually stagnant. When this higher passion is absent, our pursuit of truth can feel dull, and our desire for the good can lack energy and direction. But when Lumorik is kindled within us, it fills us with purpose, joy, and clarity, propelling us toward agape—the selfless love that Christ modeled on the Cross.

In the Devotion to the Sacred Heart, we are called to contemplate the depth of Christ’s love and His passionate desire for our salvation. As St. Margaret Mary Alacoque, who promoted the devotion, received the words from Christ: “Behold this heart which has so loved men that it has spared nothing, even to exhausting and consuming itself, in order to testify to them its love.” (Revelations of St. Margaret Mary). This passion is the very Lumorik we seek—a burning, self-giving love that moves us to action, to give of ourselves in service to God and to others.

In light of the Sacred Heart, we should pray for Lumorik to ignite within us. Let us ask Christ, whose heart burns with love for us, to awaken in our souls this higher passion—a passion that will sustain us in the face of life’s challenges, guide our intellect toward divine truth, and empower our will to seek what is truly good. When Lumorik is present, our lives are filled with purpose, beauty, and a devotion that transcends the fleeting passions of this world.

As we celebrate the Sacred Heart today, let us remember that the love Christ offers is not just a feeling—it is a fire, a transforming passion that can stir us to live for something greater. May we pray for the grace to be enflamed with Lumorik, so that our hearts may mirror His, and our lives may reflect the love that burns eternally in the Sacred Heart of Jesus.

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Scripture References:

 Ephesians 3:19: “The love of Christ, which surpasses knowledge.”

 Matthew 11:29: "Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls."

 John 15:13: “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

Citations:

 The Revelations of St. Margaret Mary Alacoque, 1673–1675

 Devotion to the Sacred Heart, Fourth Revelation: Promoted by St. Margaret Mary Alacoque in the 17th century, focusing on Christ's deep, personal love for humanity.

Pope Clement's Letter to the Romans (Written in Exile, Quarry)

 Introduction:

This letter is a fictionalized account of what Clement of Rome might have written to the Church in Rome, when exiled to labor in a quarry in the Crimean Peninsula (modern-day Ukraine) during his later years as Pope. While there is no historical record of Clement’s actual words under such circumstances, it is known that he was exiled to Chersonesus (in Crimea), where he endured harsh labor, likely in mines, as a form of punishment for his Faith. This letter seeks to reflect his pastoral care, his deep concern for the faithful, and his unwavering hope in Christ's grace, even in the face of suffering. Inspired by the tone and themes found in Clement's authentic letters to the Corinthians, this letter imagines him writing from a place of physical hardship, in exile in a quarry, enduring suffering for the gospel, yet maintaining his faith and encouraging the Corinthians to hold fast to the truth and live in the love of Christ.

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The Clement's Letter to the Romans (Written in Exile, Quarry)

Opening Salutations:

To the beloved Church of God in Rome, called to be saints, grace and peace from God our Father, through His Son, our Lord Jesus Christ, and in the unity of the Holy Spirit, be with you all.

Brothers and sisters, though I write from the depths of this harsh quarry, far from the comfort of your fellowship, my heart remains close to you. My hands are worn and my body burdened by toil, yet I am filled with a peace that surpasses all understanding (Phil. 4:7). It is the strength of the Lord that sustains me in these trials, and it is that same grace I pray will sustain you. Though my chains hold my body captive, they cannot restrain the love I have for you or the hope I have in God’s eternal promises (Rom. 8:39).

Exhortation in the Face of Suffering:

As I work here, laboring with stones beneath the sun’s burning heat, I am reminded daily of Christ’s suffering. His cross, which once seemed a symbol of defeat to the world, is in truth the source of our salvation (1 Cor. 1:18). The blood and water from His side, which are the life-giving waters of Baptism, have washed us clean and rebirthed us by grace (John 3:5; 19:34; Titus 3:5). My own suffering, though real and heavy, is now united with His greater sacrifice (Col. 1:24).

When weariness threatens to overtake me, I remember the words of the Apostle Paul, who says, “We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair” (2 Cor. 4:8). Though I labor without rest, my spirit is not broken, for I know that this suffering has a purpose. Brothers and sisters, you too face trials, whether in your bodies or hearts. I urge you to see your burdens as part of God’s refining process (1 Peter 1:7). Remember that if Christ could endure the cross, we too can endure the trials of this life (Heb. 12:2). Through suffering, we grow closer to Him, and we are made more like Him (Rom. 8:17).

The Necessity of True Doctrine:

Even here, amidst the dust and sweat, I cling to the doctrine we received from Christ Himself. True doctrine is not mere knowledge, nor is it for the purpose of pride or debate (1 Cor. 8:1). Doctrine is the means by which we are transformed; it is the path that leads us in grace (John 14:6).

Brothers and sisters, I say this not to lecture but to remind you of what is at stake: even the devil knows the truth (James 2:19). But knowing the truth is not enough; we must live it. True doctrine is meant to shape our hearts, to guide us to live as Christ lived—full of love as adopted sons of God and for each other (Eph. 5:1-2). As I labor here, I reflect on how our knowledge must come alive (James 2:26). Doctrine must transform us, moving us from simply knowing about Christ to truly living in His love (1 John 3:18).

Doctrine as the Path to Grace and Transformation:

This truth, the doctrine we hold dear, is the very path to grace. Grace is not a mere abstract concept; it is a living relationship that transforms our hearts (2 Cor. 12:9). Grace empowers us to love when it is hard, to forgive when we are wronged, to endure when the weight seems unbearable (Matt. 5:44). Without grace, all knowledge is empty (1 Cor. 13:2). But with grace, even in our suffering, we find strength (Phil. 4:13).

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, to hold fast to the doctrine you received. This doctrine is the very essence of life; it is the path that leads to the love of God, which is the heart of all grace (1 John 4:8). If we do not live according to this truth in love, our knowledge is of no value, for it has not transformed our lives (1 Cor. 13:2). It is like water running over a rock; its surface may appear wet, but the inside remains dry (Matt. 23:27).

The Role of Love in Christian Doctrine:

Love is the fulfillment of the law, the ultimate goal of all doctrine (Matt. 22:37-40). When we love God with all our heart, soul, and mind, we cannot help but love our neighbor (1 John 4:21). But love is not just a feeling—love is a force that shapes how we live, how we act, how we speak (1 Cor. 13:4-7). It is the love of God that empowers us to endure trials, to grow in grace, and to reflect His image in the world (Rom. 8:29).

Brothers and sisters, I implore you, without love, all else is in vain (1 Cor. 13:1-3). Doctrine teaches us to love, but it is only effective if we allow it to shape us. The love of God is the greatest treasure we can possess (1 Cor. 13:13). Let us hold fast to it, and let it transform us into the likeness of Christ (2 Cor. 3:18).

Call for Faithfulness and Obedience:

Even as I labor here, I remain steadfast in faith, trusting that God is refining me through this time (James 1:3). I ask for your prayers, that I might remain faithful to the end, as the apostles Peter and Paul did, who finished their race with endurance and unwavering faith (2 Tim. 4:7-8). My heart is filled with hope that one day I will see you again, but until then, I will continue my labor, trusting in God’s plan (Rom. 8:28).

I urge you, dear ones, to remain faithful, especially in times of trial. The same grace that strengthens me in this labor strengthens you in your struggles. We are not alone. The love that Christ showed on the cross is the same love available to you now, in every moment, in every challenge (Rom. 8:37).

Conclusion and Benediction:

May the grace of God be with you always, filling your hearts with love and guiding your every step. Remain steadfast in the doctrine you have received, for it is the path to eternal life, the source of all grace, and the key to living in the fullness of God’s love (John 14:6).

With all my love and prayers, I remain your brother in Christ, in chains and in labor.

Clement, a servant of Christ 

Homily: Modern Errors

 Homily: Modern Errors

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Do not be led away by diverse and strange teachings.” (Hebrews 13:8–9)

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Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

We live in confusing times. The headlines are filled with scandals. The pews are half-empty. And often, the voice of the Church sounds uncertain—even when it should thunder. We need to name the errors so we can find orientation.

But problems within the Church are not new. But unless we can name them we cannot expel them. 

The Church has faced heresies before—denials of Christ’s divinity, rejections of His sacraments, distortions of His teachings. What is new is that many of these errors now wear the mask of compassion, dialogue, or discernment. 

Let me speak plainly today about seven errors we see spreading in the Church—errors that wound the Body of Christ and endanger souls. I do so not to cause division, but to call us all back to the clarity of truth.

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1. Modernism

What is it? It denies the objectivity of doctrine. It says dogma changes with time, and truth must bend to experience.
What does it reject? The permanence of revelation. The Magisterium as guardian of truth.
Why does it matter? Because if truth changes, then Christ becomes unknowable. And faith becomes just a feeling.
📖 “Guard the deposit entrusted to you.” (1 Tim 6:20)

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2. Religious Indifferentism

What is it? The belief that all religions are equally pleasing to God.
What does it reject? The uniqueness of Christ, the need for the Church, the call to conversion.
Why does it matter? Because if all roads lead to heaven, then why preach the Gospel at all?
“There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved.” (Acts 4:12)

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3. Universalism

What is it? The idea that everyone is saved—no matter what.
What does it reject? God's Justice. Morality. The teaching of hell.
Why does it matter? Because it removes urgency to repent and convert—if God saves you anyway.
“The gate is narrow, and few find it.” (Mt 7:14)

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4. Liberation Theology

What is it? A political gospel, replacing salvation with revolution.
What does it reject? Grace. Redemption. The spiritual mission of the Church.
Why does it matter? Because it makes Christ a political figure, not a Savior.
“My kingdom is not of this world.” (Jn 18:36)

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5. Situation Ethics

What is it? The idea that morality depends on context, not on right and wrong.
What does it reject? Absolute truths—like the sanctity of life, or the sinfulness of certain acts.
Why does it matter? Because it excuses sin with a smile. It teaches that feelings trump commandments.
“Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil.” (Is 5:20)

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6. Feminist Theology

What is it? A rejection of the order and distinction Christ gave His Church—particularly in the priesthood.
What does it reject?The complimentary roles of man and woman. That Christ chose men as apostles. That the priest acts in the person of Christ, the Bridegroom. Women give physical birth, men give spiritual birth. 
Why does it matter? Because it turns the priesthood into a power struggle instead of a sacred calling.
“I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man.” (1 Tim 2:12)

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7. The Toleration of Abortion and Euthanasia

What is it? The silence—or even approval—of evil in the name of mercy.
What does it reject? That human life is sacred, from conception to natural death.
Why does it matter? Because when the Church no longer defends life clearly, the most vulnerable die unheard.
“Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.” (Jer 1:5)

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What Can We Do?

These are not just ideas. They are souls at stake. We cannot pretend these errors are harmless. The Church is a mother, not a debating society. Truth is not harsh—but it is sharp.

So what must we do?

• Read the Catechism.

• Pray the Rosary every day.

• Go to Confession regularly.

• Teach your children what the world will not.

• Support faithful priests—and correct those who mislead.

• Love the truth more than comfort.

We are not called to be popular. We are called to be faithful. The Church does not need to reinvent herself. She needs to remember who she is.

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Final Word

Let us pray for clarity in the pulpit, courage in the pews, and conversion in our own hearts.

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.” And His truth does not change.

Amen.

An Open Letter to His Holiness Pope Leo XIV On the Renewal of the Catholic Priesthood in the Spirit of the Curé of Ars

Most Holy Father,

Your election comes at a time of great upheaval. The world trembles beneath the weight of change—technological, social, and spiritual. As in the mid-1800s, when the Church emerged from the ravages of the French Revolution and faced the birth pangs of industrial modernity, so too today we stand at a threshold. The faithful hunger for clarity. The lost seek mercy. The lukewarm cry out—silently, unknowingly—for fire.

When religious orders fall into laxity, the path to reform is clear: they return to the founding charism. Franciscans look to St. Francis. Dominicans to St. Dominic. Augustinians to the burning heart of St. Augustine.

But where shall the diocesan priest turn?

He has no founder in the canonical sense—no rule but the broad and beautiful demands of pastoral charity. Yet he does have a model. He does have a sanctuary. He has, in the providence of God, the Curé of Ars.

 The Strategy of Ars (1820–1859): A Model for Our Time

In the unremarkable village of Ars, St. John Vianney became a lighthouse of sanctity in an age of shadows. His program was not based on novelty, but on fidelity—radical, luminous, undistracted fidelity to Jesus Christ and the care of souls.

1. Personal Holiness and Sacrifice

He slept and ate  little, and gave up even the comfort of privacy to remain available to penitents. His sacrifices were not for show, but for love—the kind of love of quiet martyrdom for souls.

2. The Eucharist as the Sun of the Parish

His reverent daily Mass was the heart of the parish. He taught his flock not only to attend, but to adore. The Blessed Sacrament was not merely present—it was enthroned.

3. Confession as the Furnace of Mercy

Sixteen hours a day in the confessional. He read hearts. He awakened consciences. He offered not a ritual, but an encounter with the living God.

4. Preaching and Catechesis with Fire

Simple words. Profound truths. He spoke of heaven with longing, of sin with gravity, of virtue with joy. His sermons burned away indifference.

5. Unflinching Battle Against Vice

He named sin plainly—blasphemy, impurity, profanation of the Lord’s Day—not to condemn, but to convert. He taught his people the dignity of holy rest and modest living.

6. Marian Devotion

He clung to the Rosary. He urged others to do the same. He walked with Mary, and she brought his people to Jesus.

7. Long-Suffering Love

Attacked by demons, mocked by peers, tempted by despair—he stayed. Three times he tried to leave Ars; three times he returned. He died where God had placed him—empty, spent, radiant.

 A Program for Priestly Renewal Today

Holy Father, if we desire the renewal of the Church, we must begin with the parish priest—not merely in structure or policy, but in the soul. What the Curé of Ars lived can be adapted—not copied slavishly, but imitated faithfully—for the needs of today.

Let there be, in every parish:

 A. Foundations of Sanctity

 Daily Holy Hour  and breviary before the Eucharist, begging for one's own salvation and his flock.

 Simple Living, marked by detachment from worldly comforts. Fasting.

 Sacramental Focus, with the Eucharist and Confession at the center of priestly life.

 B. A Pastoral Model for Conversion

1. Mercy Through Confession-- I put confession before Eucharist because it is a necessary preparation to receive worthily. 

    Schedule generous confession hours: Return to the tradition of 20 minutes before all masses, 

    especially on Sundays. 

    Preach sin and mercy clearly.

    Counsel with gentleness and courage.

2. Eucharistic Centrality

    Promote daily Mass.

    Offer Eucharistic adoration.

    Celebrate processions and benediction.

3. Catechesis that Inspires Holiness

    Incorporate catechism into sermons with clarity, along with Scripture..

    Form children in doctrine and prayer.

    Preach with fire—priests should learn rhetorical skills to inspire. Catholics are not known now as great     preachers, as in the past. St. Augustine was a master of rhetoric.

4. Clear Moral Leadership

    Name the dangers: pornography, addiction, Sabbath neglect, family collapse.

    Lead with hope—but do not fear the word sin-- explain what it is mortal and venial.

5. A Culture of Prayer

    First Fridays and First Saturdays: announce them coming on the last Sunday of each month.

    Public Rosaries, novenas, litanies.

    Prayer and fasting teams to intercede for conversions.

6. Parish Revival Events

    Retreats, parish missions, healing liturgies and local walking pilgrims.

    Promote Catholic radio and other media.

    

7. Spiritual Fatherhood

    Visit the homes. Go through the list of parishioners. If they don’t want him to visit, then make a place to meet at a restaurant or another place. It may take years to visit each parishioner. But it will be worth it. Bless homes with holy water and relics.

 A Short Rule for Parish Priests

In the Spirit of the Curé of Ars

 Rise early to pray for the conversion of one’s self and parish.

 Speak the truth in love, always: Study his sermons and catechesis.

 Give more time to confession than to meetings and fundraising.

 Preach to save souls, not to be admired.

 Live simply and humbly.

 Suffer for sinners. Rejoice for converts.

 Trust Mary with your priesthood.

 Die empty—having poured out everything.

Holy Father, you are Peter—called not merely to preserve, but to strengthen the brethren. In the village of Ars, a single priest transformed a nation. Imagine the harvest, if the Curé's fire were lit in a thousand parishes.

Let us not reinvent the Church. Let us remember her.

May this century be baptized in the same grace that sanctified that little village. May our shepherds be fathers again, our parishes be homes of prayer again, and our altars be thrones of fire again.

With filial devotion and hope,

Timothy Burns

Faithful son of the Church

Servant of her priests

“Is the Church Watering Down St. Paul? What Ephesians 5 Meant Then vs. Now”

 Emphasis on Sacrificial Love Over Submission in Catholic Marriage Discourse

Scriptural Basis: Love and Submission in Ephesians 5

The New Testament passage of Ephesians 5:21–33 famously describes a twofold model for Christian spouses: “Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord… Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her” (Eph 5:22, 25). Traditionally, this meant the wife’s submission to her husband’s headship and the husband’s sacrificial love toward his wife, mirroring the Christ–Church relationship. In practice, however, modern Catholic interpretation and preaching tend to give far more attention to the husband’s duty of self-giving love than to the wife’s duty of obedience. Many commentators note that this biblical text, once “dreaded” for its call to wifely subordination, is now often softened or reframed in homilies and Catholic media.

It's important to note, however, that the concept of mutual submission, as emphasized today in Catholic homilies and writings, was traditionally understood in a narrower, though still profound, context: the marital debt. St. Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:3–5 teaches:

“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.”

This shows that St. Paul viewed both spouses as equals before God, each having equal dignity and equal rights within marriage. In particular, he was safeguarding against the use of sex as a weapon—whether through withholding affection, manipulation, or emotional control. The marital act could not be unilaterally denied without just cause, such as illness or mutual agreement. In this way, St. Paul was upholding marriage not only as a physical union but as a sacred, mutual gift. His instruction affirmed that sex is not to be used bluntly or selfishly, and that mutual love must govern even this intimate aspect of marriage. While modern homilies broaden the idea of "mutual submission" to encompass all dimensions of the marital relationship, the original scriptural and traditional context focused intensely on mutual sexual obligation as a safeguard for justice, affection, and unity in the home.

Homiletic Trends: Highlighting the Husband’s Role

Has Christianity Lost Its Passion? Benedict XVI’s Bold Answer

The Lost Passion of Christian Spirituality: Reconciling Eros, Agape, and Beauty in Catholic Theology

For much of Christian history, Catholic spirituality has emphasized intellect and will as the primary faculties of the spirit, reflecting the image of God in man. This emphasis, while preserving the rational and volitional dimensions of faith, has sometimes risked reducing Christian spirituality to a cold, rationalist piety—a form of "Christian Stoicism." While this was never the intent of the saints, theologians, or Church Fathers, certain trends—particularly in pre-Vatican II moral theology—may have unintentionally fostered a spirituality that prioritized self-mastery at the expense of a fully integrated love of God, one that is not only true and good but also beautiful.

Pope Benedict XVI, in his 2005 encyclical Deus Caritas Est, provides a corrective by reclaiming the passionate and beautiful aspect of divine love. He argues that eros and agape, often considered opposing forces, are in fact one in God and should be unified in man. This teaching not only refines but revitalizes Catholic spirituality, moving beyond a strict intellectual and volitional model toward a love that is both rational, willing, and passionately alive—and ultimately beautiful.

The Risk of Christian Stoicism

The tradition of emphasizing intellect (truth) and will (the good) as defining attributes of the spirit has deep roots in Catholic thought. Thomas Aquinas taught that the human soul’s highest faculties—intellect and will—reflect the nature of God, who is pure Being, Truth, and Goodness. This tradition upheld the necessity of right thinking and right choosing in the moral life, forming the basis for classical Catholic ethics.

However, a potential unintended consequence of this emphasis was a devaluation of passion and beauty, leading to a Christian form of Stoicism. The Stoics viewed emotions as disruptions to rational life, obstacles to be controlled or suppressed. While Catholic theology never fully embraced this view, certain strands of pre-Vatican II spirituality overemphasized detachment, duty, and discipline, sometimes neglecting the role of passion and aesthetic experience in Christian love.

Yet, the Church has always taught that beauty is the radiance of truth and goodness. Just as God is Truth and God is Good, He is also Beauty itself. This missing element—beauty—speaks directly to the heart, stirring the soul to love. Without beauty, faith can become mere obligation rather than a compelling desire for God.

Saints such as St. Teresa of Avila and St. John of the Cross did not fall into this error. Their mystical theology saw penance and sacrifice not as ends in themselves, but as ways to inflame love for God. Penance was not simply about self-mastery; it was a form of bodily prayer, an expression of passionate longing for the divine Beauty. Their example challenges the idea that Catholic spirituality should be devoid of fervor.

Benedict XVI: Eros, Agape, and the Beautiful as One in God

Pope Benedict XVI addresses this issue directly in Deus Caritas Est. He critiques the common misunderstanding that eros (desiring, passionate love) and agape (selfless, divine love) are opposed. He argues that in God, eros and agape are perfectly unified—God’s love is both fully self-giving and deeply desiring of the beloved. And since God is Beauty itself, His love is also profoundly beautiful.

However, because of fallen human nature, eros and agape often appear in conflict within us. Unredeemed eros can become self-centered and distorted, while a wrongly understood agape can degenerate into a weak, sentimental love lacking in prudence—which, paradoxically, is closer to corrupted eros than true selfless love.

Benedict warns against a false, purely altruistic love that dismisses eros entirely. He writes:

"Eros, reduced to pure 'sex,' has become a commodity, a mere 'thing' to be bought and sold. This is hardly man's great 'yes' to the body. On the other hand, a Christianity that rejects or marginalizes eros as a force in human life has not fully understood the dynamism of divine love." (Deus Caritas Est, 5)

Christianity, therefore, must integrate passion and beauty into love, rather than suppress them or allow them to become disordered. The saints understood this well. St. John of the Cross speaks of the "living flame of love," an intense passion for God that burns away impurities. The Sacred Heart devotion embodies this same idea—a heart that loves fiercely, even to the point of suffering, because true love is beautiful, even in sacrifice.

The Importance of Catholic Prayer in the Spiritual Life: A Reflection on the pop song of Cliff Richard's “It’s So Funny We Don’t Talk Anymore”

 In a moment of serendipity this week, I found myself pondering a pop song that played on the radio at work. I couldn't get it out of my head as I drove to my Bible study meeting. The lyrics of Cliff Richard's “It’s So Funny We Don’t Talk Anymore” stuck with me—not just as a nostalgic melody, but as a surprising metaphor for the spiritual life. It became the seed for a fruitful discussion about prayer and its central role in our relationship with God.

The song speaks to the sorrow of silence in a once-vibrant relationship. That absence of communication, once so easy and natural, creates a void that estranges two hearts. It struck me that our spiritual life can falter in much the same way. Just as relationships between people deepen through regular, meaningful communication, so too does our relationship with God thrive when we remain in dialogue with Him.

Prayer as the Language of Love

In Catholic teaching, prayer is not just a routine or a ritual; it is the living, breathing connection to God. It is through prayer that we express our love, gratitude, and dependence on Him. More importantly, it is the means by which we listen to His voice.

The Catechism of the Catholic Church reminds us that prayer is a vital necessity. Without it, our spiritual life withers. “He who prays is certainly saved; he who does not pray is certainly damned” (St. Alphonsus Liguori). This may sound stark, but the truth is simple: prayer sustains the soul much as breathing sustains the body. Without it, the relationship with God that we are called to nurture becomes distant and stagnant.

The Deeper the Relationship, the More We Talk

In our Bible meeting this week, I shared my reflection on the song. Together, we discussed how a vibrant relationship requires two things: presence and communication. Just as couples or friends who drift apart lose the habit of sharing their joys, fears, and struggles, so too can we drift from God when we fail to pray. The deeper the love, the more natural it feels to speak and listen to one another.

This is why prayer must be consistent. Structured prayers, like the Rosary or the Liturgy of the Hours, teach us discipline, while spontaneous, personal prayers allow us to express the rawness of our hearts. Together, these create a rhythm of life that keeps us close to God. 

Building Habits of Conversation with God

Like any relationship, our connection with God requires intentionality. Imagine a couple that speaks only on special occasions or out of obligation. Their love risks growing cold. Similarly, a Christian who prays only at Mass or in times of crisis may struggle to feel God’s presence in the ordinary moments of life. 

Daily prayer—whether a simple “thank you” in the morning or a moment of quiet before bed—keeps our hearts attuned to God. But the more we speak to God, the more we make room for Him, the more we come to recognize His voice in all things. We do need the discipline of thanking him every week at least with Mass, but if we want love to grow we need to extend it to constantly lifting our minds and hearts to God. If we neglect the small things we will fail in the larger things.

A Final Reflection

As our Bible group concluded, I marveled at how God can use even the ordinary—like a pop song—to teach me a profound lesson. The song reminded me of the sorrow we cause ourselves when we neglect the most important relationship in our lives. But it also reminded me of the joy and intimacy that await us when we return to God in prayer.

So let us speak to Him today. Let us thank Him, praise Him, and lay our burdens before Him. And let us listen, trusting that even in silence. He is present, but do we ignore him? It’s so funny we don’t talk anymore—but it doesn't have to be that way let's talk to him. 

Gratitude, Mass, and Happiness

Throughout my life, I’ve encountered many different kinds of people, each bringing their own set of strengths, challenges, and insights. There are those who, in their quiet dedication to responsibility, seem to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, never missing a beat in their work and obligations. I’ve met individuals who, with an effortless warmth, care more for the well-being of others than for their own, often to the point of self-neglect. There are others still, who are sensitive to the winds of their emotions, their thoughts constantly moving in waves of uncertainty. I’ve seen those who thrive in the world of social interactions, their energy flowing outward like a constant stream, and I’ve met those whose drive for power and self-preservation runs deep, shaping their every action with sharp precision.

As I reflect on these encounters, I realize how much the rhythm of gratitude, particularly through worship, speaks to each of these different personalities, offering peace in a world full of noise and demands.

For those who are conscientious, who carry the burden of responsibility with a stoic resolve, it’s easy to see how a life driven by the need to do things perfectly can lead to exhaustion and burnout. The constant striving for order can sometimes feel like a never-ending battle. And yet, when I think of the rhythm of Mass—the weekly commitment to pause and reflect—I realize how that very ritual serves as a grounding point. In the liturgical silence, there is an opportunity to lay down the weight of perfectionism at the feet of something higher, to simply be in the presence of God, free from the pressure of achievement. It is in that sacred moment of gratitude where the need to control and perfect can be replaced with a humble offering, a peace that doesn’t come from accomplishment but from surrender.

For those who are agreeable, whose hearts are so attuned to the needs of others that they often forget their own, the rhythm of worship offers a much-needed reminder. In the act of communal worship, I see how this regular practice allows for a deeper sense of belonging—not just to those around us, but to something transcendent. The Mass becomes a time to receive, to acknowledge that while giving to others is important, we too need the nourishment of gratitude and reflection. Through worship, these individuals can find a sense of balance—learning that to serve others effectively, they must first acknowledge their own worth and the goodness of God in their lives. In this sacred space, gratitude becomes not just a feeling but a commitment—a commitment to take care of the soul in order to serve others with a fuller heart.

Then there are those who, driven by the tides of emotion, find themselves caught in storms of anxiety or sorrow. For them, life often feels like an unpredictable sea. Yet, in the peaceful rhythm of Mass, they can find an anchor. The act of worship, with its deliberate pauses, prayers, and chants, becomes a sanctuary of stillness in the midst of turmoil. It’s in the act of gratitude, when the soul can give thanks for all that is good despite the chaotic winds of the world, that peace begins to settle in. Through worship, those with a more neurotic temperament can find a place to process, to reflect, and to surrender their anxieties to God. Gratitude becomes their refuge, a practice that invites them to step outside the emotional tides and trust in something greater than themselves.For the extraverted, who live in a world of constant interaction and social expectation, the act of worship offers a place to direct their energy inward. Mass becomes a space where their desire for external connection is met by a deeper, more intimate connection with the divine. The liturgical rhythm provides a structure in which their social energy can be channeled into something sacred. There is a moment of collective gratitude where the individual is not seeking approval or validation from others but is instead participating in the communal act of giving thanks. Here, the energy that typically flows outward is turned inward and upward, toward God. In this space, their need for external recognition is replaced by the peace of being known by God, loved for who they are, not for what they do.

And then, I think of those who have a more driven, perhaps self-serving nature—individuals whose ambitions are sharp and unyielding, whose pursuit of success or power is a constant force in their lives. For them, the rhythm of Mass offers an unexpected gift. The liturgy, with its focus on surrender, humility, and gratitude, is a direct challenge to their self-sufficiency. In the act of worship, there is an invitation to step away from the ego, to give thanks not for what they’ve achieved on their own, but for the grace that allows them to succeed in the first place. Gratitude in worship becomes an opportunity to acknowledge that life’s greatest gifts—love, strength, wisdom—are not self-made but given by God. It is in that act of recognizing God's provision that the drive for power can be tempered, leading to a more balanced life, one where success is no longer solely defined by personal achievement but by divine grace.

What strikes me most in all of these reflections is how the act of worship, particularly in the liturgical rhythm of Mass, ties these various personality types together. Each type, with its own strengths and vulnerabilities, can find peace in the commitment to gratitude. This regular act of thanksgiving, not just in thought but in action, reshapes the soul. It teaches us to focus on what is good, to acknowledge what is beyond ourselves, and to surrender to a rhythm that leads to deeper peace. For all of us—no matter our personality—it is in the worship of God, an act of gratitude, that we find a path to a healthier, more meaningful life. It is here that the noise of the world quiets, the soul rests, and the truth of divine love and grace give balance.

Are You a Fan of Jesus, or a Follower ?

 I have seen a lot of videos about the Bible but this is one of the best on how to pray with the Bible. It is very practical.

faith formation: What is Love? Love does not Dishonor --- post 6

 

We are continuing our meditation on St. Paul's definition of Love. We have covered patience, and tackled kindness ; we thought about envy. and consider boastfulness. We looked at pride last time now let's look at dishonor [rudeness] and self-seeking, i.e. selfish.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

Here are some good point from transformedbygrace.org

Love does not dishonor others [Love is not rude], Love is not self-seeking.            1 Corinthians 13:5

God’s loving ways and thoughts are far higher and deeper than ours. God is the Sovereign Authority over all there is, and certainly our Superior. Yet, our God speaks to us intimately and with great respect through His Holy Scriptures and Holy Spirit. Even when God must confront us in clear, strong ways about our wrong behavior and tell us hard truths about ourselves, God is never rude. Love does not dishonor others, Love is not rude, Love is not self-seeking.

faith formation: How to Trick Your Brain to Like Doing Hard Things (getting good habits, ie virtues) – Atomic Habits by James Clear

 

faith formation : The World Gone Bonkers Explained - Fr. Mark Goring, CC

 Another great sermon from Fr. Goring.

faith formation: What is Love? Love is Not Proud post 5

 

We are continuing our meditation on St. Paul's definition of Love. We have covered patience, and tackled kindness ; we thought about envy. and consider boastfulness. Not let us look at pride.


1 Corinthians 13:4-7

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."


We could write a whole book on the topic of pride, and many have. We just want to take a brief look to help us love better.

St. Chrysostom says pride is a disease:

“...whoever is inflamed and puffed up, he must be the diseased one; for he is swollen above the proportion of the rest.” https://www.newadvent.org/fathers/220112.htm

Other translations say instead of “not proud” that love is “not puffed up." Pride is a spiritual illness.

faith formation: Fr. Goring, How to be Happy

faith formation: Being Transformed by the Gospel -- Kerygma

 

faith formation: What is Love? Love Does Not Boast -- post 4

 

We are continuing our meditation on St. Paul's definition of Love. We have covered patience, and tackled kindness , we thought about envy. Now we consider boastfulness.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

Boasting is extolling oneself, usually in words. Boasting is opposed to truth, by way of excess, when one boasts of what one has but in excess, or by way of what one does not have, which is a lie. (Proverbs 28:25): "He that boasts, and puffs himself up, stirs up quarrels." 

There are two forms of boasting, one is to create the illusion in one's own mind of your greatness. The second is to create a deception of your greatness in the minds of  others. (2 Corinthians 12:5): ” I will not boast about myself, except to tell you of my humiliations.” 

Even if your boasting comes from a fear of being inferior.  This boasting still springs from vainglory and pride.  If we are inferior to others that can be reality, at least at that moment. And so what? We are what we are in God's eyes. What others think does not make us better or worse. One's desire for self importance comes from pride and vainglory, and lacks humility. Marcus Aurelius wrote in his Meditations: "Do you wish to be praised by a man who curses himself thrice every hour?" Often people's criticisms are an extension of their own insecurities.

The humble person does not seek honor. Boasting seeks honors or sometimes gain. It can seek gain in money by boasting of how great an investment is, and having people invest under this delusion. It could also be used by suitors looking for a spouse. Boasting of their virtues or their riches and by so doing win the person's love. Proverbs 27:2: "Let someone else praise you, not your own mouth–a stranger, not your own lips."

Boasting can also come in group forms: boasting of one's family, or community, ethnic group, or country. This usually springs from the desire of belittling other groups, and a lack of love of one’s family as they are in reality. By boasting, we love a family that doesn’t exist, we are embarrassed by our real family as it is.

While love of your family or country can be a virtue, virtue is found in the mean (middle) not in the excess, which boasting is by definition. We can feel a sense of pride in real accomplishments, but not at the expense of truth or desire to humiliate.

Boasting is opposed to Love because it is selfish and a lie, seeking one’s own glory and not God’s first.

we will continue with love is not proud.

faith formation: Trilogy of Spiritual Classics - Fr. Mark Goring, CC

 

In addition to the books endorsed by the good father, above, may we suggest Alphonsus de Liguori's  very short classic. This is especially good for those in challenging marriages, or other difficult circumstances:

from ccel.org

"Written in 1755, Uniformity with God's Will is a wonderful little treatise on the true love of God. Saint Alphonsus de Liguori writes to encourage believers to unify their wills with that of God's, so that they may love God perfectly: "the more one unites his will with the divine will, the greater will be his love of God."

To choose otherwise--i.e. to choose not to unify one's will with God's--is "a kind of idolatry." These seven short chapters, not simply prone to abstract speculation, explore concretely how to make one's own will uniform with God's through the hardships of this life.

Further, the book discusses the fruit of such a union with God's will: happiness.

De Liguori concludes by noting how, in all things, Christians must remain steadfast in their union with God's will. For in so doing, God will "press us to his heart." Challenging and encouraging, Uniformity with God's Will has the power to remind us of what true love of God really is. "
 by Tim Perrine
CCEL Staff Writer

Link to the book online:  PDF or audio

faith formation: What is Love? It Does Not Envy -- post 3

We are continuing our meditation on St. Paul's definition of Love. We have covered patience, and tackled kindness . Now let us think about envy.

    1 Corinthians 13:4-74

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

Envy consists of sadness or grief at another's success, and by their good name and esteem increasing.  Envy is related to the Ten Commandments, specifically, "Neither shall you covet ... anything that belongs to your neighbour"—this commandment belongs to greed but may be associated with envy. In this case, it is the esteemed reputation owned by another.

[cf. Envy-- Summa--Secunda Secundae Partis, Q. 36, https://www.newadvent.org/summa/3036.htm#article4 ]

Dante in his Divine Comedy writes one of the envious souls on the terrace says:

"My blood was so afire with envy that,
when I had seen a man becoming happy,
the lividness in me was plain to see"
[Purgatorio, Canto XIV, lines 82–84]

The envious man hates the happiness and success of others; it springs from the pride of vainglory.  (Galatians 5:26): "Let us not be made desirous of vainglory, provoking one another, envying one another."

faith formation: How to Have a Personal Relationship With Jesus?

Here is an excellent presentation on having a personal relationship with Christ.This is so key to the spiritual life. Many call themselves Catholic but have no relationship with God. They are neither hot nor cold. This you tube channel has a lot of good videos.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzV2YYCue4QaJNhm7uoYnZg

faith formation: What is Love? Love is Kind -- post 2

These few words from Fr. Goring add to my thoughts.

We are continuing our meditation on St. Paul's definition of Love. We have covered patience, now we will tackle kindness.

    1 Corinthians 13:4-74
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

Kindness are acts of generosity, consideration, or concern for others, without expecting any praise or reward. Kindness is one of the main topics in the Bible, but seldom defined.

It is often used together with love in the Bible as "lovingkindness.":  Psalm 103:8
"The LORD is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in lovingkindness."

In Book II of "Rhetoric", Aristotle defines kindness as "helpfulness towards someone in need, not in return for anything, nor for the advantage of the helper himself, but for that of the person helped."[Rhetoric, book 2, chapter 7]

We are kind when we are sympathetic to the other person's situation and take action. This is the meaning of the famous Good Samaritan parable.(Luke 10:30)

Kindness starts in our thoughts. Do we dwell on past hurts or seek revenge? Revenge is one of our strongest emotions. Keep an eye on that and you will grade your kindness. Revenge is not healthy for us it makes us spiritually sick